Not dating my best friend
In fact, Susan admits that she and her new boyfriend had kept the relationship under wraps initially, to avoid awkwardness in case things didn’t work out.
Susan is one of the lucky who navigated the transition well.
I didn’t put in enough effort to dress up for our dinner dates, for example, or explain why I had to stay late at school. Our relationship had evolved from a platonic to romantic one, but because we knew each other first as friends, we took it for granted that we also knew each other’s relationship expectations, which became the root of many arguments.
Another problem with dating a close friend is that you might spend a lot of time with mutual friends, which could become awkward if the relationship doesn’t last.
“Our [platonic] relationship progressed to the next [romantic] step very gradually.
I wish we never did because when we broke up, even though it was amicable, I lost someone that otherwise could have been a friend for life.” I realized then that what I really wanted in my other half was compatibility in values, interests, and personality (which by then I knew my friend and I had). Diana Kirschner agrees that compatibility is the best thing about dating your best friend.In the words of Kirschner, a relationship expert, psychologist, and author of Find Your Soulmate Online in 6 Simple Steps: “You can have it all in one package: friendship and romance.” In fact, many girls admit this combination is what makes dating a best friend so appealing—given your closeness and familiarity, you’re already halfway to a solid romantic relationship.There was, of course, that best guy friend who was rooting for me to overcome yet another heartache.