Lose it dating
A woman can either write off a man because he uses too many emoticons in a text and continue complaining about how lonely she is or rip up her list and realise that Prince Charming doesn’t exist …or is already married to a 21-year-old Victoria Secrets model.Hold out for a non-existent Mr Right or take a punt on Mr Right Now and Right Here.What’s a few inches between friends anyway – height ladies, we are talking height.Growing up, I saw a culture that idolized loyal, unwavering love, but was permeated with the reality of unfulfilled promises.From my first romantic relationship, I learned similar messages about how you play the game. And while he was a great guy, I recognized this pattern of love being a chase…something that was exciting and captivating until it wasn’t anymore.Presuming you’re not a 21-year-old Victoria Secrets model, you have one of two options.
Showing you care more than the other person became incredibly foolish. So we build up our defenses, we hide how we feel, we shove emotions down, we belt out some Beyoncé, we learn not to cry in front of others.
Being 21 means you are slightly more within your rights to pick and choose a partner who matches your criteria.
When hitting an age when you’re thinking about long-term commitment, you either compromise or dust down your spot on that shelf.
On the one hand, I believe that marriage isn’t the end-game of life.
I believe that you can live a happy, fulfilling life as a single person (after all, both Jesus and Paul stayed single). With the help of Cher and her lipsticked posse, I learned the game of love has a lot of rules: getting love requires a wide selection of outfits and a plan, you don’t show all your cards, you can’t text back too quickly, shopping heals most wounds, and you only want the people you can’t have.Of course, I can watch this movie two decades later and enjoy it with much more thoughtful commentary. As a single, twenty-something Christian, I have to sort through a lot of mixed messages about romantic love.We learn early on that the loser is the one who “can’t get over it.” When someone rejects us, we retort that we didn’t care anyways.