How to handle dating a musician
When I asked why, she said, "I just couldn't deal with it"... I was usually to timid to sit with someone during the breaks and if you'll look around the next time you see a live band in a bar, see if the band members don't (for the most part) kind of congregate with their own little group rather than mingle with the rest of the customers. Because people come in stressed, sometimes grumpy, have a couple - three drinks, loosen up, dance a little, start smiling, and have a good time. I play for the smiling, appreciation, watching people dancing and having a good time. I have been in the scene for a while so when we do play out it’s more like going to a party with friends!!!
You would think being talented at something would be a turn on... I typically don’t party when the bar closes because I do have a day job that pays the bills, so I am always up by in the morning….
Musican here and I have never had any problems dating woman.
Ususally the woman who complain are unable to handle this type of situation or have been turned down before.
I mean you could be into taxidermy or something very strange.
I've had women trust me but couldn't put up with me being gone a lot.I had to call it off because he travelled all over Canada alot and I didn't have enough trust built up for that. We still remain friends though and I am happy for his success.I can understand that a relationship/dating wouldn't work if you were playing out all the time or on the road...Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate. Actually I play all over & I am usually doing studio gigs, which doesn’t involve bars at all…
A girl recently told me that she loved my profile & thought I was cute, but she couldn't date a drummer... I've played plenty of bars (keyboards), and by the time you get all the equipment torn down and loaded & the barkeep comes up with your paltry pay, all the girls have gone home with someone when the bar closed down (and the band stopped playing). When I do play at bars/clubs it’s usually a party atmosphere more than anything…
While I am doing the music, I don't know that I can have a relationship. For many of us, it is a passion that burns as brightly as the type of passion you have for person/lover. But you usually play in bars where people drink and get amorous and hey, you are "in the band". a committed musician at times does not have a lot of free time. when the musicians away..........of my musician friends are happily married....biggest complaint from the spouse is all the time on the road, but if the trust is there profession shouldn't matter.....dating a musicain..problem....