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I appreciate that there are so many people out there who are willing to read up on things that they might need to consider when they are dating a trans person.I think that reading various perspectives of trans people on dating can help you consider things that the person in question might be hesitant to bring up, especially if they are in early transition and still discovering for themselves what it means to A) be in their chosen sex/gender and B) to experience love, lust and sexuality in this sex/gender.We already hear all the excuses at work and elsewhere about: “But it’s a habit! As Kaldera’s article (the one I can’t find anymore) pointed out, if he does something that appears to you to be “unmanly”, the worst thing you can do is say something like: “You move/talk/walk like a girl.” To paraphrase Kaldera, if he is trying very hard to be manly, you will embarrass him.If he doesn’t care about gender norms or actively seeks to refute them (like me, for instance) he will be turned off by your adherence to a set of values that he chooses to refute. This guy is discovering a whole new worlds and there will be ups and downs.Not all of these factors are directly linked to their gender/sex identity and transition and some of them may change over time.So, while it *is* commendable and worthwhile to read up on these issues and to take into consideration what you read about the myriad experiences and perspectives of trans folk, please remember that time, openness, trustworthiness and patience are your best tools for getting to know your partner(s).
That said, there some widespread issues that trans people have when it comes to dating. With more specific reference to trans guys, something I read a lot on the blogs of my fellow trans men is that they have trouble dealing with the gendered expectations that partners may have.
However, I urge people who are dating trans folk of any stripe to first and foremost remember that this person is human first and, as with all humans, they have their own set of ideals, values, insecurities, holdovers from childhood, etc.