Dating for widows widowers
As a result, the question has been asked: Should you be dating a widower as a divorcee, and visa-versa?
For one member who has recently come out of a relationship (we’ll call him “Howard” since he did not want his name to be shared), said that it’s not something that he would be willing to do again.
As a recent divorcee, he had begun a new relationship with a widow and at the time they dated, thought that he had finally found “the one.” He felt like his ex-wife was never really his soul mate and that his soul mate was still out there, and it was Terry (also a fake name to protect identities).
Unfortunately, as the months passed, Howard realized that Terry didn’t consider him her soul mate. She even called out her late husband’s name during intimate moments with Howard. Howard knew he would never live up to the memory of Terry’s late husband and didn’t feel he could continue when they didn’t both think they had found their soul mate.
She’d already met her great love and had a full life with him. Widowers could understand and appreciate her loss, and maybe sharing their experiences would bring them closer together.
So she searched for a widows dating site but found nothing in the UK or anywhere else.
At Stitch, many of our members are either widowed or divorced, which brings new challenges to finding a partner later in life.
It’s an unchosen label that both connects them to others that have experienced the same trauma, but also makes them feel as if a world made for couples has thrown them aside.
For another couple who met on Stitch (she a divorcee named “Lynn” and he a widower named “Paul”) the question of whether they would be compatible because of their different losses never came up. Maybe we cry for different reasons, but having a shoulder to cry on, someone I love, it doesn’t matter about how we got there, just that we found each other now.”Paul said, “Of course I miss my wife and yes she was my soul mate. She and I have built a new life together and every day I’m grateful to Stitch for leading me to her. Such a mix of different trauma and pain led her to feel that the only way to feel right again was to find another husband.
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The Short Version: After the death of a loved one, it can be hard to move forward, but grieving singles need not struggle alone.
Use the Stitch Forums to dig in deeper on these issues and connect with people who can understand what it’s like to be a Widow or Divorcee. Rather than answer this question ourselves, we want to turn it over to you. What’s been your experience moving forward from death or divorce?
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“At that point, I dropped my plans for a boyfriend and started making plans for a website,” she recalled.