Choosing a screen name dating
Think about it: If he was some guy who was obsessed with trying to please you constantly in every way, you would think he was a pushover.
You would take the behavior for granted and you wouldn’t place much value on it.
Today, new research published in the BMJ’s journal, Evidence Based Medicine, adds to that glittering pantheon.
Scientists from Barts, the London School of Medicine, and The University of North Texas have discovered the secret to the perfect online dating profile.
Here’s the problem: In the same way that women will do “little things” for guys and then be confused and frustrated when the guy isn’t smitten by all the little things she’s done for him (in the way a woman would be), guys think that one grand gesture will make up for months of neglecting “little things”. I’ve had plenty of times where I’ve let work and life in general consume all my time and attention and neglect my relationship.
And for those who judge breakthroughs in online dating insignificant in the annals of scientific discovery, even Carl Sagan knows that “For small creatures such as we the vastness is bearable only through love.”The Perfect Handle Men are simple creatures, the science suggests, so obvious screen names are the most effective.Men gravitate towards positive handles—this isn’t the place for self-deprecation—that intimate the person on the other side of the screen is sexy (stuff like “Blondie” and “Cutie”).Meanwhile, women prefer a screen name that makes its owner sounds smart (“Made Up Of Star Stuff,” perhaps? Interestingly enough, the letters that make up your screen name may be even more important than the words they form.This is something that I hear all the time from women in their relationships.
You want him to do X, but if you tell him to do X it ruins it because then he would be doing it because you told him to and not because his emotions/love for you told him to.
You wouldn’t be able to respect him or trust his strength because everything he was doing is based on trying to “win you over”, get your approval or please you.